Hard times don’t create heroes.
It is during the hard times when the ‘hero’ within us is revealed.
Every choice I make is a step into becoming a hero? Who would have thought that? A choice seems like such a simple thing…isn’t it?
Everyday I make choices…What to eat, What to do, What to watch, Do I exercise or not? Do I eat chocolate…now…or later?
Are my choices easy…maybe not easy, but these days they usually need to be quick.
I can remember waiting for a child lets call her Helen to choose a packet of lollies at the service station obviously on a long trip, more on Helen later.
Consider: this common belief – it is better to make a decision fast then not make a decision at all- because at least when you have made a decision you can always change it. Research says whenever we make a decision, we go momentarily insane, choosing between the two options in our mind to make a choice.
I don’t know about you, but some decisions get very complex. Like choosing where to move to or how to move my business forward…there seem to be so many options… so many possibilities and which one is right?
Maybe there is more to consider then just once fast decision. Maybe Helen was considering more then I knew?
When your values are clear to you, making decisions becomes easier.
-Roy E. Disney –
Values in decision making, mmm that is something I hadn’t considered. So when was the last time you stopped and thought about your values? Let’s stop right now…could you give your top 10 values in the next 30 seconds?…what about a minute?…what about a day?
There are workshops on everything these days and as part of personal development there are usually a component which includes understanding your values. So if we take a look at what you spend your time on? In your waking hours, what do you spend most of your time on? What’s the next thing you spend the most time on? I can hear you say, but…I need to work, sleep, eat… yes that is true… you move towards what you value… is it media…tv…learning…partner…family…exercise…who do you carve out your time with… everybody gets the same 24 hours in the day…the same 1440 minutes in a day… the same 86400 seconds in a day… are you choosing wisely or something else…wasting life?
Maybe Helen’s values weren’t clear in choosing which lollies…if the person had an allergy or a particular dislike in the choosing… or was it that Helen was considering the whole family in the choice – Dad doesn’t like caramels, Mum doesn’t like mints, Sister doesn’t like licorice flavour, Brother doesn’t like… maybe Helen was trying to make everybody in the car happy in her decision.
Ever had tough times? Been through hard times?
When things didn’t work out the way you wanted them to?
You may have hoped things would work out differently?
Yet… You wake up the next day and you seem to still be in the same cycle…Everything looks the same, yet you want it to look different…
You look and keep looking for a change.
You realize 2 things :-
1. you can pass the buck and blame
2. you can begin to take responsibility.
I once heard someone say how you spell blame is B-lame so lets move on from that no more being lame.
When I begin to take responsibility for my life I realise the secret sauce of life…
“zero changes till I change.”
The secret sauce of life is to experience living!
If it’s to be it’s up to me! and I can do it!
I’m no longer wasting time waiting on other people for choices, decisions.
It’s time for me to stand up and be counted and to change my life – because zero changes till I change…
Somewhere, somehow we are taught to shutup and listen and we are taught from a young age 5 years of age we are in classrooms learning to follow the rules, for the next 12+ years we are taught school. The Uni where they want us to think again…for ourselves, trouble is we have to fight for what we believe, we have to fight for our dreams, which we almost lost in our schooling systems.
When we are born we are brilliant…during school we discover strengths and weaknesses and we work towards our strengths… and we move into a job and work for 20+ years maybe have a career…yet deep inside us we know we have a purpose… we know we are wasting our time and energy in someone else’s business, maybe getting someone else rich.
When is it our turn to do something for us? When is it our turn to live our dream, when is it our turn to reinvent ourselves? You may have got a redundancy or got sacked or whatever happened that got you to this moment in time where you have a choice…
You can choose to procrastinate on your dream… it’s ok its all subconscious, you don’t realise you are doing it, you can find a old job… It’s ok because yes, your dream will keep appearing, every moment you get a moment to stop and breathe…that deep longing inside you to make a difference, to leave a legacy, to help someone doesn’t go away… you may quiet it momentarily, you may numb it, you may make life so busy you can’t hear it.
And in the quiet of a moment you will know
if you are… living your dream,
if you are experiencing living.
if you are living to your values,
if you are living to your strengths,
if you are using your brain
if you are living your choices,
If you are living your integrity.
Always remember “You Are The Hero” &”Zero changes till I change” Enjoy the journey of discovery – remember you are worth every moment – cherish it because this is the beginning of the rest of your life! This is where You Begin to Experience Living! Where you discover -Your Hero is Revealed!
A hero is an ordinary individual who finds the strength to persevere and endure in spite of overwhelming obstacles.
A Hero is no braver then an ordinary man, but he is brave 5 minutes longer.
-Ralph Waldo Emerson-